Man to Man (A Conversation between a Father & Son)
A Conversation between a Father & Son
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Here’s a characteristic of Black men or “typical” Black men that absolutely drives me “up a wall”, “going for self” in a world where no one likes or even cares for us. I don’t know if it’s from being selfish or being cowardly or a combination of the two, but if a situation ever arises where you need your “Brother” to help you out in a time of need, don’t hold your breath. If there were something that needed changing in your neighborhood, don’t count on your “Brothers” to help you change it. Got drug-dealers on your block? I guess you figure that there are enough strong Black men on your block to drive them away, right? You’ll be fighting that fight alone. (This is one of the biggest reasons why drug-dealers set up camp in our neighborhoods, no resistance!) Thing is, “Brothers” are always quick to challenge and fight one another, though. Upon meeting or first seeing another “Brother”, Black males tend to “size each other up” to see if they can “take him” if a fight were to break out. “Brothers” actually check out the size of each other’s chest, arms, their weight, etc. in an attempt to judge whether they may be able to beat the other man in battle. In other words, instead of just trying to get to know another Brother, possibly making a new friend or ally, or even getting the opportunity to network, Black males would rather make another potential adversary first. This is why our neighborhoods are so weak. I’ll use another analogy to show what we look like in the eyes of the world. Have you ever watched one of those animal shows like National Geographic? Have you seen where there was a heard of Wildebeests congregated together, then all of a sudden a Cheetah came in and the heard just started running? Now, don’t you think that if the heard got together that they could’ve just whipped the Cheetah? Now think about the typical Black neighborhood and the typical drug dealer dealing drugs on the corner. Don’t you think he could be run off the corner if he had some resistance? This typically does “not” happen in the suburbs folks. Why do you think white people come to “tha hood” for their drugs?
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"Stand Your Ground!" "Stop & Frisk!" Imagine if you will, you have a son who is about to come of age. It's time for you to have "The Talk" with him, what do you say to him? Well, typically you would tell him the basics like; "Shave with the grain, not against it", or "Look a man in the eyes when you shake his hand", or you might give him tips on how to be financially frugal. But, what if your son was Black in America? How would that conversation go? Recent events would indicate that it's "Open Season" on young Black men in America. Therefore, wouldn't our conversations with our sons have to be different? Even the Mayor of NYC admitted that "The Talk" he would have to have with his "Black son" would have to be different. Exactly what would you say that would properly equip your young Black son to deal with what will be dealt to him? Given the fact that Black men are the most hated and persecuted beings on the planet, are you even equipped to have that talk with your Black son and properly send him off into this world? This book, "Man to Man (A Conversation Between A Father & Son)" tackles a lot of those issues a young Black man would need to arm himself with to be prepared to deal with living in a society that by and large does not want or accept him.
About the Author
Jay Baisden was born in Brooklyn, New York in 1961. He attended Clara Barton and Thomas Jefferson High Schools. From there, he went on to study Accounting and Business Management at CUNY Tech in Brooklyn, NY, Averett University in Danville, VA, Delaware Tech in Wilmington, DE and the CITE school in Philadelphia, PA. He also played Varsity Basketball for CUNY Tech and Averett University and has played in tournaments in Puerto Rico as well as all over the United States. After leaving college, Jay spent many years in the Auto business, in Sales and Management, as well as in Real Estate. Through his different life's experiences, Jay has traveled all over the United States and has experienced many different cultures of people and life lessons. Those life lessons are the premise of his book, "Man to Man (A Conversation between A Father & Son)", which he plans to pass on to his son when he becomes of age and is ready for the world.