Bullying

What are we really scared of?

by Brenda Turner

Formats

Softcover

£26.95

Softcover

£26.95

Book Details

Language : English

Publication Date : 20/07/2015

Format : Softcover

Dimensions : 6x9

Page Count : 418

ISBN : 9781503506671

About the Book

This multi Award winning book; Bullying What are we really scared of? is a comprehensive educational guide to bullying. From the school yard through to the workplace, cyber bullying, domestic and family violence, even elder abuse, this book covers all areas of bullying.

Why you were chosen, why you responded the way you did, why no one would step in to help and how to stop it? Understanding bullying is crucial to defeating it, learning how the bullies think will tell you what tactics they use to help you can counter them to defeat the bully. With practice, you can stop the bullies before they start.

Winner of the Best Self Help Book for 2018 by the Pacific Book Awards. Finalist for Self-Help Books for 2019 by the Book Excellence Awards. Gold Award for Education/Reference for 2020 by the Elite Choice Book Awards. Silver Award for expertly delivering a thought provoking theme that is easy reading, fluent and powerful using appropriate language by Literary Titan 2020. Finalist for Education and Academic for its high quality writing for 2021 by the Book Excellence Awards.

This informative book challenges the current "system" response of victim blaming and punishment and lays the foundation for a successful way of dealing with bullies.

The author gives:

• Realistic, affordable and easy solutions to the bullying problem.
• Empowering victims to overcome their fears so they can stop the bullies easily.
• Aiding victims to diffuse bullying situations.
• Educating bystanders to understand their role in helping victims.
• Educating parents to understand the situation their child is in and how to help.
• Educating school staff how to help the victims instead of punishing them.
• Educating the Justice System to help victims of all forms of abuse.
• Educating governments and education departments on better policy and decision making.

Bullies are really not that scary when you understand them, in fact, they are easy to control when you know how. Put all bullies in their place today, order your copy of Bullying What are we really scared of?

About the Author

I am a Counsellor, an expert in Bullying Resolution and a multi award-winning author.

Having suffered at the hands of others, being accused of others misgivings, reputation slandered, bruised, battered, then acquiring a physical disability, I realised I needed to look for the intelligent way to stop bullies. With the statistics are still soaring, showing the lack of proper education, leadership and Justice, I have made it my life's mission to set the record straight. That is, to work as hard as I can, to help bring about realistic positive change World wide so we can all live a life of equality, free from abuse, free from fear, as suggested by the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

I grew up in a domestically violent family, “sibling rivalry” was rife and it didn’t get much better at school either. This was followed by workplace bullying, then into a domestically violent marriage. I lost a dear friend who committed suicide because of a bully. I had an accident that caused a painful physical disability and became even more of a target for bullies. One day, I finally said “ENOUGH”.

I was very dismayed with all the bullying that was going on around me, I was desperate for a way out of this horrible existence. I took some time out to study bullies, to work out why they do it and why they chose me. I sought the answers so that I could become bully free. This journey took me to all sorts of dark places, I went into the bullies minds, trying to understand why they do what they do. Then I read notes from Counselling sessions between a bully and a Psychologist that were “accidentally” left at my house by a bully. Wow, what an awakening I had. I realised just how easy it was for this bully to worm their way into my life and that my life had become a complete lie, it was all about the bully and nothing about me, I had completely lost my identity.

Finding the solutions to bullying was a matter of understanding the bully, then combating everything they do right in the beginning, once I learnt how to do that, no bullies ever got past first base... Now I laugh when they try...

I have made it my mission in life to share my secrets and help victims to become bully free for life.

Editorial Reviews

"Bullying: What are we really scared of? is a highly informative, helpful book that helps readers deal with bullying effectively. Author, Brenda Turner, encompasses all aspects of bullying in the book, including the truth about bullies, ways to overcome bullying and the various levels of bullying. It not only teaches readers everything there is to know about the matter, but also features the author’s personal experiences which adds a more personal feel to the book. Turner skilfully delivers the information with simplicity and straight-forwardness while offering practical and action based methods to prevent or stop bullying. Overall, Bullying: What are we really scared of? is a well-written book that gives readers valuable insights into the issue of bullying.”
“The contents of the book are accurate, well thought-out and well-researched."
“The contents of the book appeals to its target audience and is in line with other highly regarded books in its genre."

- Elite Choice Book Award Judge’s Review
In Brenda Turner’s book, Bullying (What are we really scared of?), she explores the subject of bullying. This self-help book leaves no stone unturned, giving insights into the psyches of both bullies and their victims. By sharing snippets from her life, societal facts, and even information from court proceedings, she paints a clear picture of how bullying has evolved over the years.

As you read this book from page to page, you come to understand the different types of bullies, what motivates them, and how to defend yourself against them. And I must say, never has an author laid out such a clear and actionable defense plan before.

As a person who has been bullied before, I deeply relate to the situations painted in this book. From all the stories and statistics that she provides, I can clearly see that the author not only has extensive personal knowledge of the subject matter but also that she constantly does the necessary research to understand it better. She even goes as far as attaching links to research materials.

While this book is thoroughly comprehensive and relatable, I still feel a lot more could be done to pull a reader in. For instance, how the source links are placed in the middle of text with neither warning nor acknowledgment is quite destabilizing. Also, the text seems to get away from the title of the chapter. In this regard, I would have preferred shorter, clearer, and more concise paragraphs. However, I still feel that the author did a good job of breaking down such a complex topic.

However, what I truly love about this book is its action-based approach. The fact that it doesn’t paint victims as helpless individuals but rather as people who can fight back and defeat their oppressors is quite refreshing. In my opinion, it is this single quality that transforms this book from a hopeless doomy piece into a hopeful one.

Apart from hope and the triumph of good against evil, another recurring theme in this narrative is the importance of the family unit’s independence. In this regard, the author iterates again and again the dangers of the government dictating how parents should run their households.

- Literary Titan

Customer Reviews

"Thank you for allowing me to peruse your book on bullying. I found it both informative and challenging. I was particularly interested in your inclusion of domestic violence, cyber bullying and political machinations as areas with their origins in schoolyard tactics.

It is clearly a topic of great importance and you are right to draw attention to it and its potentially devastating consequences. Of course, your emphasis on understanding the bully (as opposed to 'the bullied') is an important twist that will hopefully give these 'victims' more insight into the tactics being used against them.

Dr Jane Buschkens

B Psych (Hons), PhD, MAPS, MIACN (Cert)

Registered Psychologist"

Dr Jane Buschkens
"The people who read your magic life-changing book will be hanging onto every word, like I have. Your book has empowered me beyond description - it's changed EVERYTHING.
""All aspects of my life are different now - it's been all-encompassing. My relationship with my children is different. My relationship with the world is different. The relationship I have with myself is different. I owe it all to you. You've transformed my entire life Brenda and I will always be eternally grateful to you.""
""I decided that every time I had to see my ex I would take your book with me as my safety net, my security blanket, my lucky charm...... but your book has made me so strong that I don't need to.""
""I'm Free. It's such fun."""

Jenny Miller
"Your book should be given out at domestic violence centres.
""My quality of life has improved dramatically since reading your book."""

Miss Kitty
I am sincerely grateful to you for writing this wonderful book.

J.H.
There are no words to describe how your book has changed everything for me.

?Queen? Hyslop
It is very relevant

Mr Shane Knuth MP, Member for Hill, Queensland Parliament

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