MISSING LINKS IN MARRIAGES & FAMILIES JOURNEY

Sometimes you need to stop and ask yourself, “What is going on in this world?” You will realize that you are moving at an increased speed toward building more missing links in your marriage and family relationship. As life gets busier, faster and more hectic, you are causing cracks to your marriage and family life. What are your observations as you reflect? Feel busy and you can’t cope with pressures of life? There is a lot going on in your life and how will you realize that there is absolutely no chance for you and your spouse to play, share, love and laugh together. Life experience through interacting with my clients has taught me that busy people don’t give their best to their marriages and families. They serve leftovers, feelings and energy that remain; their attention has already been given to other commitments. By the time they are home they are: • Too tired • Too preoccupied • Too drained • They fail to give their loved ones (spouse and children) attention they deserve. Believe in marriage, you and your family cannot survive on leftovers forever. You can’t be a busy person who serves leftovers; the end result will be a broken heart. Remember, God has a solution for your busy schedule. Things go wrong in your marriage and family life when you expect people, places or things to fulfill your wants and you end up discouraged. Any time you put your expectations for help in the wrong places and people, the result is disappointment, frustration, hurt and broken relationships. I have discovered that many couples want the following things from their spouses, marriages and families: • Success: I want to accomplish something • Understanding: I want to be known • Joy: I want to feel satisfied and happy • Love: I want to feel attractive • Respect: I want to be admired and esteemed Can you tell me why does the devil create missing links? Whatever is going on in your marriage and family affects every other aspect of your life. God wants your marriage not to be changed by missing links, but to be filled with the truth of who He created you to be. Your responsibility is to identify missing links and false messages that have broken your heart. None of you escapes this world without being hurt and wounded. None of you are immune to the power of the devil to break the joy of your heart with lies and negative messages. Rediscovering missing links, your broken heart will engage you, connects and links you to God and make you to share the love of God with your marriage, family and children. Align your marriage and family with the Grace of God to stay linked. When you want your marriage and family to stay aligned with the GRACE of God, you must move with His will, you must be in unity with the Spirit. Maybe you are asking yourself the following questions: • “How do I get aligned and linked with God?” • “What if I fall out of alignment and delinked with Him, how can I fix it?” It is very simple to answer these questions. Personal, relationships, marriage and family alignment has to do with your soul’s attitude towards God. At any moment in time, either you honestly pay attention about pleasing God or you do not. If you do, then you are in alignment with Him. Alignment is not about actions, behaviour or conduct; you can be linked or aligned with God in your soul and still be sinning with your body. Missing links in a marriage can easily break and fall into cracks where you may never find them again. However, it happens, the fact remains that it is upsetting and disturbing to be at a marriage with broken links. If you want your relationships to grow and become stronger, you must be willing to forgive your spouses every time. When couples do not forgive each other, they remain bitter and hold grudges against each other, they regularly experience physical and emotional difficulties. That is the reason why I say, forgiveness is important to you as an individual for the health of your spouse as well as to the health of your marriage! You can’t live your life in your marriage and family without the greatest command of loving God, yourself and others. I promise you, you will never have the kind of marriage and family you are longing for. There are two words I used for myself, my marriage and family that worked magic. These strategies are: • Attitude and • Action Life has taught me that, relationships are complicated, and every relationship is different with different strong and missing links. Remember, a link is a reference point of a marriage and family, which connects the source (your heart) and destination (your marriage). When your marriage and family are going through difficult times, both of you are surrounded by the broken pieces of your hearts. That joy you had when you got married is no longer there. Where has that first love gone?