Be Better, Not Bitter

About the Book

Being thrown into prison (or jail) is a soul-crushing life experience, and any prisoner has one of the two following choices pertaining to how they handle the experience—they can become bitter, or they can become better. The natural choice is to become bitter—many times, very, very bitter. Mr. Decker provides the reader his experience and understanding as to the basis of either choice. This is framed as either a fear-based or a love-based choice. This frame applies to both prisoner and nonprisoners alike, including why we incarcerate people in the first place. Using his prison experiences, social science, and many wise people’s quotes, he helps the reader see that if a prisoner or nonprisoner uses only the author’s fear-based insights, anyone will naturally become bitter. However, if we all use the author’s love-based insights, we’ll become better. Mr. Decker's insights and wisdom can and should be liberally applied to nonprison environments as his insights apply equally to every person in every walk of life. The reader comes away knowing he’s able to withstand any and every one of life’s challenges using love and forgiveness. Mr. Decker demonstrates that love-based thinking is the key to our peace of mind. Each one of us is entitled to and capable of the peace of mind he describes.

About the Author

Mr. Decker is a twenty-plus-year, decorated military veteran, having served through several wars and had numerous overseas deployments. Mr. Decker rose from a junior enlisted airman to a field-grade officer. In addition to several degrees, Mr. Decker, after his self-reporting confession and his self-imposed professional treatment for his crimes, and a few years prior to his military court-martial, completed his second Master's of Science Degree. This one in Counseling. Mr. Decker was married for almost 30 years and has numerous children. Now he has many grandchildren, born since his incarceration. Mr. Decker still currently resides in prison, working daily to remain infraction free to enable his early release on parole. Within prison, Mr. Decker still works to reduce his and other prisoners' chance for reincarceration. Mr. Decker has started a foundation to which the proceeds of this book will be donated to provide other prisoners support and reintegration help through a one-on-one mentorship program. The Foundation is in its infancy and all of Mr. Decker's book royalties are being donated to this nonprofit Foundation. Mr. Decker's intent is to eventually, after he's off parole, become a mentor himself (life coach) to convicts and ex­ convicts. Currently, he serves as a consultant to the Foundation and he asks for your support to the Foundation, financially or as a volunteer Life-Coach.