Addictions, the Myth How to Conquer Them

What happens when you cannot control the addiction and they control you. When you are not in control of your life, you feel bad as per law of control. Although this is not a state you would like to be in, you are here for a reason, and some mistakes you make are dependencies. You believe you can win, you might win in the short term, but in long term you put the money back. The wining these days is around 70$, so if you can get that you should go. But you come in the venue with 200$ so a return of 70 is not enough. So, you keep playing until you lose the 70$ and 200$.At this point you should stop, but you do not, you want to recover the 200$ so you come back with more money from the bank, where you use your card. This is called chasing the loses. You believe you can get back the 270$ you threw in the machines For some reason you get the money back. But then you think did I come here for 70$ and then play the money you have. You win another 100$. So you have 70+100+200+200 equal to 570$. I can make more then 170$. When you play you look for the features which usually gives back good money. Not always happens but you use it a point of reference, When you play higher odds you also lose faster, and if you do not lose on the spot you will lose in the future. Now because you played bigger odds you lose the 570$ you had in your hands. You go to the bank to get more money from the bank but the venue closes, you need to go to the venue which is open more late. The closure of the venue is not a deterrent, for you will come back the next day after work. You, decide to play and lose another 200$. The loses now are 670 $ in two days. Now you have 670$ is not a lot of money, but there are a lot of venues opened in areas where people do not have money and it becomes a lot of money. Or if you leave from pay to pay as a lot of people do, it becomes a lot of money. You do not make the shopping, you pay electricity late and if you have a lot of money put aside you will find out that you lose it. Then you start chasing the money for rent, electricity. And you lose again. So, you do not have any money. This is the psychology of addictions. You lose money, so much that you cannot pay for everyday necessities. You are chasing this money, chasing fulfillment. This is the psychology of addictions. It happens all the time you lose. Hope you do not have a child. A child born in a house where the adult is addicted will do very bad. I have seen children at the age of 3 being malnourished, eyes in the colour black, where there was lack of energy, lack of food. That is because the parents spend the money taken as salaries on poker machines first and they are left with nothing. After all you decided to get serious armed with all the reasons to give up. You are psychologically ready to give up. Where to go. A lot of support groups and counselling are not that successfully. The counsellor does not care about you, and the support group does not tell you what you need to do. After a period of time you go back to the same habit. And that is because a lot people do not do their job and you could not take the proper help. I do not recommend the gambling anonymous. They do not follow a proper manual to give up addictions. They count the number of days they have given up gambling. You are an addict, so you can empower yourself in life from now on. To control your addictions you require someone who cares, who can help. You will see many people going back to playing poker machines. Now there are people who spend millions of dollars and end up in jail, they did not reached the bottom by trying to deal with the addictions. Nobody did it for me, it is me who stole and went to jail. The million dollars can be from stealing but also from selling the house. In this situation there is a danger of being suicidal. You lost everything, you are by yourself. And there is no reason to live. If you are gambling and lose your house you will be closer to your family. It is a way of getting closer to your wife and children. It is a matter of communication. Also, if you are relatively young you will be able to pay for another house. Or you are not the house and the house is not you. These are material things which can be bought again. If you lose your job you need to find another one and it could be a better job. You need to control your addictions by having more then one, because one will reach the end. So, you spread your addictions. You need to find more healthy addictions and keep an eye on them not to lose control. We are all addicted There are a lot of things to do in this world, one of them is your calling, Why are you here ? you will find that material things might not be for you. I say might because you need to make a living, and it is a capitalist system. No matter what happened you need to make a living. Addictions can be bad in terms of social life. If you addicted to gambling in the beginning you will spend more time and money in the venue. And the people you socialize with are not the people you would like to have around. You would like to be surrounded by people who go somewhere. Look for the right people. They put poker venues in the area where people are poor without regards to the addicted people. Areas where 200$ are a lot of money.