RISE AND SHINE
Parents Self Help Guide for the Youngins
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This is the General Overview of Contents contained within this Guide:
1) Recommendations/Considerations for adjustments to the household/environment supporting the Child’s/ Early Adolescent’s Healthy Upbringing, & Real Life’s Tidbit/Information flow-down to them when very young, and as they mature. As the Preface/Summary identifies: “Importance of this Guide’s Household/Environment adjustments & Tid Bit/Info flow-down to the Youngins, as they mature, is to ward off potential MH Issues, or reduce the extent of Issues in their future which Otherwise could occur .”
Recommended Household/Environment Adjustments, & Tidbit/Information flow-down, briefly addressed below, are expanded on in Guide’s section 1.2:
a) It is Highly Recommended to implement Faith/Faith Formation within the Household as this serves to be the Initiator for development of a Strong Foundation within the Youngins. As the Reference Book clearly addresses, One’s Foundation, Our Faith, & Our #1 Dependence (God in Essence) is the Basis of Our Positivity in light of a Strong Foundation, and conversely, would likely be the Basis of negativity if live Life un-righteously with a weakened Foundation… Just like a tall building with a weakened Foundation, over time it will likely Topple…..
In case Faith Formation is not considered feasible within the household, for whatever reasons (?), I do provide Important secondary considerations as follows and as expanded in Guide’s section 1.2: …..
b) If you are a Parent, or a Parent to be, and Struggling/Suffering yourself, now it would be a Very Important time to amend Issues for yourself & for those in your family and around you ! Take it from someone who lived, barely at times, thru 21 years of PAIN while being Dad, before I really got a Handle on all I Learned & wrote of!… So many Beautiful Moments I missed in a sense since I could never Feel or View them as they Actually were…! As a Parent, Please tune into what I am saying here…! …..
c) Highly Recommend Tidbits/Information flow-down to the Youngins in Life including:… "Life is not Fair" often, …Such is Life, but Yet "Life Is Good :)"… always look for the Good in Everything…. Provide "Reality Checks" in Life Preparing the Youngins for when they leave the household, when Life becomes Real! Spoiling the Youngins which has been a general norm in more modern times raising our Youngins, does not bode well …… Address to them, Always, "Do your Best" within reason depending on their ages, of course, & provide them Positive inputs/affirmations thru their Lives, which is So Good for their Confidence... Inhibit Laziness in behavior!... & Inhibit excessive Gaming… Have them go outside & Play & expend their energy instead, or go on a hike in Nature with them…
Later in Life, as the Youngins mature, here are additional Key Tidbits/messages to flow to the Youngin which, like those mentioned above, are indicative of the Reference Book’s Positivity Tools/Skills Process we Learn if we were to go thru the Recovery Training: "When TRY in Life, you cannot Fail"!... Remove the word Can’t from you vocabulary other than, using it in the phrase, “There is nothing I Can’t do!” … Instead of using the term “Happy” this or that 24 hrs a day, which is not the norm in Life with the normal ups and downs in Life, use the word “Peaceful” instead,for your daily/Life’s goal for demeanor… Avoid the word “Perfect” unless it pertains to what was Provided to us. We are only human and to be human is to err & what we do is not “Perfect”! …Convey to them the Importance of being Positive vs. negative in Life!…as Positivity vs. negativity Controls Our Well-Being 100%!... Also, whenever in life, let them know of the power in a smile :), & is like taking a free natural pill to lift one’s Spirits and Well Being… As they get a bit older, wouldn’t hurt to address to them, when you think/feel Excitement vs. Fear (i.e. if afraid of something), your body will actually have the same body symptoms (& chemistry). It is only a matter of perception, and how one perceives matters…Additionally, Preach the Importance of living life with Integrity… and develop a strong bond of Trust with them! … & one more Important thing to teach the Youngins… Teach them to be Respectful of All People, having Good Manners, & have them use those words that used to be commonplace it seems, but is not these days…i.e. “Thank you”, “Please”, & “Sorry” when appropriate… It is So Pleasant when I hear these Niceties from the Youngins (younger generations), or any generation!.....
Other matters addressed include:
• Inhibit overuse of those Cell/Smart Phones, & Social Media!… Also consider computer censorship software although, unfortunately in this world we live in, they will be hearing and seeing things whether we like it or not …
• Education of the Youngins begins in the Home+, & no reason to stop there…
2) Guidance & Training Needs for the Youngin in case they Struggle/Suffer; this is fairly in-depth but add’l related information is provided in section 1.3.
If the Youngin is Struggling/Suffering, they have reached a point where they need Education/Training to deal with their stresses/negativity which have amounted over time resulting in their Issues; i.e. most likely Anxiety & Depression or possibly related negative thinking based conditions such as OCD, PTSD, Addiction (Recovery), BPD, Bipolar 2 (couldn’t imagine this Process not working to maybe a Great extent for Bipolar 1 Sufferers as well), … & Yes ADD, ADHD issues as well. If go down the standard paths thru the MH Professional Community, based on what I have been thru myself, it all seemed to point to the meds for their solution/approach, which is So Wrong as meds Never get down to the Root Cause of our Issues which is Key and is what this Guide/Ref. Book focuses on. ….. Specifically, getting to the Root Cause of our Issues, involves drilling down to our Individual negative thoughts and sources of our negativity which Self-Personalizes this Process for Anyone/All! This is what the Positivity Process within the Guide/Ref. Book is All about! … It takes a Cognitive/Behavior modification approach to do it Right for Life indicative of the Intended Approach. …..
Related Guidance Recommendations/Needs which will be expanded, as needed, within section 1.3, are as follows:
a) Again, In the case the Youngin Struggles or Suffers, Motivating the Youngin such that they have the Desire to accommodate as Needed Changes is really the First step. Can’t make anyone Change unless they are Motivated and willing to accept Needed Changes in Household & within, in the way they Think and Operate as it amounts to.
b) Encourage Acceptance of Faith Formation, but the bigger obstacle would be for the Parents in such an endeavor. Otherwise if not feasible to implement within the Family, Important secondary Recommendation/Considerations are provided.
c) Tidbits/Information flow-down identified will be part of the Process which will be Worked as the Youngin is Guided thru the various steps in the Positivity Process of Recovery & Improvement. Giving the Youngin a heads-up and talking to them about may be a Good Idea…
d) Pointers to section 3, 4 (or related Guide sections 1.2, 1.2.1), 5, & 6 sections in Reference Book with necessary adjustments for Guidance & Training of the Youngins; this information is provided within these same respective sections or subsection #s in this Guide.
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When I heard of a 12 yr old, still a Child, Struggling in Life… Someone I knew of & knew of this Older Child’s predicament, my wheels started turning… Bottom line, I was just Yearning to reach out and Help!… It is just in my Blood, Who I am, & Who I have become…
So Actually, on 5/14/20 eve, before going to bed, I asked, Yep :), God,… do I have what it Takes to write a Parent’s Guide I was thinking of then to formulate to Truly Help the Young, from young Children thru Adolescence up thru to early to mid-Teens, prior to when one would then have the Mental Maturity & Ability to Pick up the Book I wrote, & Read & Work on themselves to resolve their Issues on their own? Well, I woke up the next day 5/15/20, & realized then, I already Knew what I had to Know to do what I was aiming to do :)… A Resounding Absolutely was the Answer :)…
Well, when it comes to the Necessary Reading/Work, or Related Guidance in her case, all the Answers are Clearly laid out in the Reference +Book I wrote, Unquestionably! The only difference is the need for Guidance for the Youngins, vs. them being able to Read/Educate & Work on themselves. So with the Book’s material being the Most Difficult part of this endeavor which is COMPLETE, in the Book’s “Final Edition” form, I Know I could do this! This is Especially True with my Extreme level of Passion & Drive which has been just Growing thru the years, & Knowing what I wrote, is All We Can Do As humans, Naturally, providing Permanent results… So Yeah, with this Reference Book already Done, what a Great way to begin this endeavor!!!
… 4 months later the Book is Complete… Came out Solid & Beautifully… Book’s Content includes:
• Recommendations/Considerations for adjustments to Household/Environment & Important Tidbits/Information flow-down to Youngins for Proper Up-Bringing/Development, Preparing them for their Future Life’s Journey , & Life Situations as Stresses amount when leaving Moms/Dads. This section of Book provides Stand-Alone information not requiring Ref. Book.
• Guidance & Training Needs if Youngins do Struggle/Suffer… This Parents Guide is Supplemental & points to the Reference Book (“Rise and Shine Anxiety & Depression & Life Management Tools” – “The 4th/Final Edition –The Final Cut”) for as Needed Details, & Step by Step Approach to HELP Struggling Youngins, while providing Necessary Guidance Adjustments.
Urge you to read the Book’s “Preface/Summary”, which provides an Excellent Summary of the Book Contents and Advantages of having Parents provide for All Guidance needs… “Preface/Summary“ should be available in the “Look Inside” or Book’s provided sample pages on Book sites, and if not, is provided in Blog Post: https://riseandshineanxietydepression.net/2020/06/03.
As a Parent to a Parent, needless to say, we all want Our Sons/Daughters to Grow Up to be Strong, Independent, Secure, and be able to reach their Full Potential in Life…Urge you to Look Further into this my Parent Friends :)!